Attending professional relationships during the holidays – Harvard Health Blog


Do you count from days until you find a face-to-face face to your family or friends who will correctly find out where the half lie to and push it, often? Although we all are happy with a good sense, a better understanding, and a simple conversation, with a realistic connection during the holidays can travel even to the best. So, how are you going to the next meeting?

Simple tips to help you go

Here are simple tips to keep in mind:

Prepare. Sometimes we can avoid what we are afraid of and hopefully accept. Why is Bertha's wife different from this year? Why are you depressed or depressed? Recognizing one or two most well-known features (both, one) can help you to have a tolerant attitude towards integration.

Knowing and accepting can lead to effective action. How much time are you ready to share with those who are the most difficult challenges? Can you find the best sibling when sharing food at the end of the dish? Do you go after the best way to get in touch? Team and once? Think about when and how you want to work with others, and then look for that opportunity.

Become interesting. We can not always control the stories, especially around the table. Uh-oh, who has now brought politics? If there is a real issue about the viewpoint of others, the conversation can be very bad. But the excitement takes an unwillingness to listen and listen to it. The hearing will adhere to the discipline and the wishes of the present you do not do after your refusal to speak to someone else. It also takes a modern way to identify you can learn new things. If you do not think it is possible – you or other people – sometimes "politically" (or "politically") (or "anything unresolved") helps you to have strong relationships.

Repairs. And about 27-year-old family story, maybe even where you are – or someone else – coming out of a little bit more? Intelligent, abnormal and repatriating can be what is needed. Put the focus on the speaker to reduce the likelihood that they are feeling. "It was a terrific day on the beach, did you hear that you are planning a trip to Spain in February?"

During the difficult conversation?

Carpe diem. When we move away from other people, sometimes we need to take the time to talk about difficult things. Less vocabulary words:

  • Tell the person who received the advance notice. "When we go together, I would like to talk about the Thanksgiving debate so we can make the future better."
  • Find the time and place of your conversation. Try to make sure you have enough time to talk about issues.
  • Take responsibility for your problem. Sorry, when you are honest, it can go on.
  • Please be concerned with moderation, in a language you do not speak. Try "I" rather than talk about how often "like". "I felt really frustrated when I realized that you told me I missed my job," so much. "To be so hard, Joe told me my work when you promised to keep secret."
  • You have two ears and one language. Review of the proportion of how you use it. Listen for two hard times and feelings, and let them know what you are sharing with.
  • Hold your goals. If you prove that your goals are a collective understanding, resolution, and understanding, your goals will help you to guide your actions and to continue on the road.

Be the light

As far as you want to do a study of good holidays – who? – You probably know deeply that the person you can control is your own. Teaching, being prepared and disciplined, you can actually be a light-emitted type of thing. After all, there is always outside the door of the locked room on the second floor.

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